The honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever. After about
six months to a year, the feeling of being “in love” starts to fade, and
tackling everyday problems with your partner for the rest of your life will
eventually wear you out at some point in time.
Fortunately, even relationships can be invigorated. Here
are a few ways you can bring the romance back into your marriage and keep you
going strong as a couple:
more time together.
Distance in the marriage starts when both partners no
longer spend time with each other for a number of reasons, one of the biggest
being the work schedule. However, you should know by now that marriage is a
lifetime deal that needs constant work and effort to maintain, and it can go
south quite quickly.
Spending time can be something as simple as setting a
lunch or dinner date, picking your spouse up after work, or even taking up a
hobby on the weekends. Engage in a conversation about anything and use that
time to appreciate each other’s company. Turn off your phones if you have to.
Of course, this doesn’t mean you should spend all your time together. Everyone needs some time for themselves, and this period of alone time should revitalize your partner and your relationship as it relies on trust to work out.
Communicate clearly and often.
Take the initiative of setting aside time to talk
about any issues that your marriage has come across. This includes openly
discussing your expectations, anxieties, and insecurities, though not
necessarily in that order.
It’s also crucial that you find a proper place and
time to do this, preferably at a time and place where no one can distract your
conversation and you won’t be distracted by anything else.
Remember to be sensitive to your spouse when you do decide to open up about what’s in your mind. Keep showing your love, affection, and respect to your partner as you share your thoughts. Stay calm – perhaps the most important thing you need to do is to listen to him/her.
One of the biggest reasons why married life can get
boring quickly is because of how monotonous it can get over time. This is why
it’s important to add some variety and spontaneity to the relationship, and it
can range from something as simple as tickets to a movie or a play to planning
an entire evening or weekend to surprise your spouse with.
This doesn’t just end in giving your partner gifts – switching
up your intimacy and closeness by changing your patterns of flattering your
partner in subtle ways can do wonders in improving your physical relationship.